12 Struggles Of Being The Firstborn In A Nigerian Home
There have been plenty of studies about the order of birth, with so many arguments about how much it affects one’s personality.
But even though there’s no real consensus on the traits firstborn children might display, there are definitely struggles that are almost universal for firstborns. If you are a firstborn in a Nigerian home, these are the struggles that would resonate with you.
1) You have to be a role model
Oya raise your hands if this sounds familiar. You are expected to set “good examples” always. Sometimes, you even get penalized by your parents for a crime committed by your siblings that you are absolutely oblivious to.
If this isn’t EVIL, then I don’t know what it is.
2) Unpaid babysitting
No kidding. This happens a lot in most Nigerian homes. You are put in charge of taking care of your little ones while your parents go to work.
3) The struggle of being successful and fulfilling all your parents’ long lost dreams
So your parents are probably not very rich, and even if they are, they still want their first child to achieve way more than they did.
As a first child, you endure plenty of pressure from your parents to be successful.
You are perceived as a reflection of their abilities as parents. Some parents will even save or even sell a piece of land to send you abroad and more; so you can come back and turn the fortune of your family around.
But, in the end, you may be forced to live a life that you did not wish for.
4) The struggle of meeting higher standards
You are penalized for similar offense your siblings get away with. Guess what those little siblings of yours would be doing when you are being penalized? They would laugh
5) The Struggle of Dealing with *snitches*
It can be so hard getting away with anything when you are the firstborn. When you are the firstborn, your younger siblings monitor each of your moves and are not hesitant to snitch on you to a higher authority(your parents) unless you bribe them. Make God wan catch you, your mom offers a bigger bribe to them.
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6) “Act like the firstborn!”
Every firstborn can recall when those little ones completely wrong them and should tender a GIANT apology but mommy and daddy would play the “act like the firstborn” card.
You are sometimes asked to even apologize to the offender. Like warehell??
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7) Dealing with stubborn siblings
You’d think at least your siblings would appreciate the valuable lessons you try to hand down to them, but too often they refuse to learn from you. They would outrightly disobey and flout your orders. You sometimes want to literally strangle them
8) You are judged if your sibling(s) hit a milestone before you
It could be marriage, job, graduation, or anything. Woe to you for “failing” at life because your siblings have achieved a milestone you are yet to reach
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9) You are the first “experiment”
As the first child, your parents are still trying to navigate parenting, hence they use you as the “guinea pig” for their parenting training
10) You are the second daddy/mummy in the house
Your siblings look to you to perform the role of your parents.
11) You are always in the middle of problems and arguments between parents/siblings
You are the unofficial judge and jury of the house. The worst part of being in this situation is that you are accused of being partial by the unfavoured party even when you deliver a fair judgment.
12) You don’t have an older sibling(s) to share your pain with
You can’t even share with mummy/daddy too.
Can you think of any other firstborn struggles? Share in the comment section
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